Short guys and dating
It happened whenever I stepped out onto the school playground at recess.As soon as I appeared the older girls would shriek with delight and chase me until I couldn’t run anymore.It’s hard enough trying to explain to people the realities of height discrimination when you have to also convince them it’s an actual thing in the first place.“Oh, c’mon! “People don’t treat you any differently because you’re short.”Every person who has ever said this to me has been at least 5’11”.But I’ve lived the life and know the truth and what I have found is that many of the cultural inequities we traditionally assume are gender-based might have just as much to do with size as the seemingly inexcusable lack of a penis.But I bristle at the implication that there’s something inherently morally wrong about who I choose to date. I acknowledge that my palate is flawed and that I’m missing out on any number of delicious, well-crafted dishes that everyone else can enjoy.
When I joined OKCupid, my top (and, really, only) priority was filtering my potential matches by height. I have more than once met someone whom I wrote off as a total moron and/or asshole, then shortly thereafter proceeded to fall in love with.But after years of this, I’m pretty sure I’ll always feel the same way about goat cheese. Personal preferences exist, and to deny that is willful ignorance.My aversion to goat cheese doesn’t make me a bad person — neither does my attraction to tall men. In the 23 years that have passed since then, I’ve come to two major conclusions about being a short man in North American society and they are thus: It sucks and no one wants to hear you complain about it.
Because of this I tend to mostly shut up about the subject.I feel like shorter guys are more insecure because they can only date shorter girls." Helena, 257.